Spotting and Closing Unwanted Opened Doors 5 Self-Sabotage
Honestly, this one is super tricky. And will be the final installment in this series. This list is not exhaustive, but the hope is that you’ll possibly be able to spot patterns you may want to take by the horn and slam those unwanted doors shut.
Here we go…
When was the door of self-sabotage opened over your life?
Self-sabotage is when we say we want something but go about it, consciously or unconsciously, making sure it doesn’t happen.
Overt self-sabotage may be refusing to add more plants to your diet even though your body craves it. Covert self-sabotage my show up as becoming distracted easily or procrastinating every time you should work on a business idea or project.
What are the opportunities you’ve passed up over the last 6 months?
What made you pass them over? Were you afraid? If yes, what are you afraid of?
What are the actions or inactivity on your part that are slowing down or stopping your progress? At those times, what are you believing? Could you be self-sabotaging?
I listened intently to a woman in her early fifties talk about some challenging issues she faced in life. She had worked hard and an opportunity that would change her life in a positive way surfaced. Sadly, she didn’t take it. She seemed afraid of the unknown and the hardship she knew had become comfortable.
Wow, hardship had become comfortable!
As she shared more of her story, it appeared she seemed to think it wasn’t safe to heal from the toxicity she was exposed to. So, in her behaviour and thoughts, was colluding with hardship, toxicity, being cheated, brokenness, and unconsciously mourning what could have been, but not connecting with what could be.
That belief stopped her from making the progress she could have had. Stopped her from thriving. I listened on and realised she wasn’t afraid to fail, she was afraid to succeed! What a different life she will have when she realises she is worthy of thriving and flourishing and makes the conscious choice to do so.
Toxic experiences can etch certain unhelpful belief scripts onto the unconscious mind. These beliefs may play out and even go unnoticed.
The hidden beliefs have to be caught, exposed, and disempowered.
They have to be made subject to your new script, your new thought processes, your new beliefs.
Enlist your subconscious mind to help you. It may repeatedly play a truth tape that creates new, more empowering neural pathways or memory tracks for you!
Meditating on scriptures that define your God-given worth may help as well.
Resistance will come back at times to test you, but your subconscious and conscious intentional mind can help you move forward in spite of its presence. Resist resistance (aka- self-sabotage) and it will flee from you.
How is self-sabotage displayed in your life? Would it be via any of the following?:
- Inability to resist distractions
- Ruminating on the past
- Comfort eating
- Focusing on others rather than focusing on self
- Imposter syndrome
When it comes to self-sabotage, observe yourself, spot what resistance is at work, and resist, resist, resist!
Keep progressing, soon you’ll create a new positive default of “persist with ease”.
May you be prosperous as you close the door to self-sabotage beginning today.
You deserve to flourish.
Christian Co-Creative Transformation Coach.
High-achievers who have invisible roadblocks work with me to gain clarity, become unstuck, take action and thrive, while increasing emotional and spiritual wholeness.