What To Do When Feeling Low Self-Confidence?  

10 Ways To Boost Your Confidence!

We all have these moments in life where we aren't feeling our best selves. Let's explore some well-known techniques that can make these such situations less of an occurrence.

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In our lives, we may find ourselves in particular situations or times where we feel as though we have low confidence in ourselves, which, if persists, can affect mental health. This comes from a lack of self-esteem.

 

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is that opinion that one holds of themselves. If a person gets a positive vibe by thinking about their life and plans, it is regarded as healthy self-esteem. It can help the individual to face the challenges of life in a daring way.

 

On the other hand, when a person reflects upon their life with negative perceptions, it leads to low self-esteem and doesn't allow them to make bold decisions.

 

What causes low self-esteem?

It would help if you have a few questions in your mind throughout reading this piece, with regard to low self-esteem: What triggers this low opinion of yourself? When did it start?

The answer is that it can begin at any stage of life. But usually, it starts in childhood and the interactions you have with family, friends, and peers at a young age. The way they treat you and respond to you plays a vital role in building your self-esteem or losing it.

Any negative response, treatment, or statement stays with you throughout your life and haunts you. Sometimes, poor health and stress also lead to low self-esteem. The way that you perceive your life also plays a significant part. Some people are more vulnerable to negativity, whilst others are able to find positivity even in the most stressful conditions.

Low self-confidence

How to manage low self-esteem?

Suppose you are facing the problem of low self-esteem. Don't let it go untreated. Understand the root cause and nip the evil in the bud.

Based on cognitive behavioural therapy, the following steps can help you uplift confidence in your own personality.

 
Identify the Problem

You must have observed that certain situations trigger your emotions and instantly leave you depressed and shun your confidence. The triggers or conditions that play a role in defeating your confidence might be:

  • A crisis at home

  • Relationship challenges with parents, a spouse, siblings, friends, or colleagues

  • A sudden change in circumstances

  • Presenting in the workplace or in education

Once you realise the problem, please pay attention to it. Talk to yourself about your beliefs about the situation and the reality of these beliefs. Your perception of the situation might be positive, negative, rational, irrational, however it may be, acknowledge it.

Ask yourself if you can discuss your perceptions with your family or friends? If you can't, reach out to one of our psychology specialists or therapists.

 

Challenge What Disturbs You - Seek Help from A Mindset Coach

 

It is your personal understanding and outlook of the situations in play that bother you and serve to disallow you from experiencing your natural confidence. Ask if your interpretation holds some logical or factual support or is a mere reflection of your thought. Challenge your negative perception of the situation; look for some alternate positive solutions.

It is not always easy to look for an idea contrary to what you had perceived previously. Long-held thoughts often appear as reality even when they’re not. Don't ignore the patterns that trigger low self-esteem.

Even if you cannot challenge your perception by yourself, you can seek professional mindset coaches who can help you with your view on the situation. You may have any of the following perceptions about events in your life:

  • You are a perfectionist and always want to see things the way that you imagine them to be. If something contrary to your expectation happens, it disturbs you. For example: if I fail at exams, I am a total failure at everything. This is not true.

  • You think people will look at you in a particular condition. They will make fun of you. They will mock you. You even have a perception that people will leave you. You only dwell on the negatives and get a distorted view of a person or a situation.

  • You don't acknowledge your achievements. You might think of yourself as privileged and don't consider your success your own doing and hence your own achievement. You don't have the guts to pat yourself on your back when you should.

  • When you fail to understand a situation, you don't wait for it to clear itself. Instead, you develop a negative approach. You blame yourself, and see yourself responsible for all the ill-happenings.

  • Sometimes you mistake your negative feelings to be your personality. You confuse the facts with emotions. In the same vain, you always talk about negative things. You always under-value your personality.

 

Adjust Your Thoughts

The final step includes replacing your negative perceptions with accurate positive ones:

  • Even if you cannot handle a situation, encourage yourself that you tried your best at the very least.

  • Forgive yourself for past mistakes and love yourself rather than hating yourself. Learn from your mistakes rather than repenting over them.

  • Focus on your strengths. Reflect upon the previous situations that you dealt with well and with confidence. Make yourself realise that you can do anything – and remember, no-one is perfect!

  • Don't let any problem depress you. Always focus on positivity. Shun away the negative thoughts. Ignore negative thoughts by distancing yourself and encourage yourself to take action on the little things that make you happy.

 

10 Ways To Boost Your Confidence?

 

Self-confidence is key to achieving our career goals and objectives. It also shapes every aspect of our lives like personal relationships, dating relationships, marriage, business, and the rest.

Self-confidence is the ability to believe in yourself. Self-confidence encompasses love, respect, and prioritising of oneself. Self-confidence provides you many benefits. It doesn't only make people admire and respect you but also inspires confidence in others. It also fortifies you to face your fears head-on, making you a great risk-taker. In fact, self-confidence imbues you with sufficient positivity and determination to overcome various obstacles that come your way. Like every other skill, self-confidence can be learned and developed through committed practice.  Though it is not a quick fix thing and takes total commitment, you can build your confidence in no time.

You can grow your confidence by constantly practicing the following strategies:

 

1. Present Yourself with Confidence

Your appearance is essential to your confidence. Your dressing makes you feel confident about yourself and also makes others take you seriously. Dressing and looking good shouldn't be about impressing others, it is primarily meant to boost your confidence, making you more prepared to face challenges. So, at all times, try to look good, smart, and fresh.

 

2. Avoid Negativity

Positivity and optimism are vital to building your confidence. Try as much as possible to stay positive and avoid negative people and negative energy. Rather than focusing on the problems start thinking of solutions and how to positively change. Extinguish all forms of fears and negative voices in your head with the belief that no problem is insurmountable.

 

3. Celebrate Your Wins

No matter how small, celebrate your wins. This immensely assists you in the growth of your confidence. During difficult times, take time to remember and list out your achievements and the things that you are thankful for. Post them where you can see them daily. This act constantly reminds you that you aren't a failure and have huge tendencies to do greater things. This consequently motivates you to believe in yourself and try again.

"Tis a lesson you should heed:

Try, try, try again.

If at first you don't succeed,

Try, try, try again"

William Edward Hickson

4. Smile and Maintain Eye Contact

You can grow your confidence with positive non-verbal cues like posture, smile, and eye contact. Sitting right, smiling, and maintaining eye contact prove to people that you have confidence. Smiling makes you feel better and makes others feel more comfortable around you. Make it a habit to always smile and look into people's eyes when talking to them or greeting them. It creates the impression that you are trustworthy, friendly, and compassionate. It will grow your confidence.

 

5. Compliments and Appreciation

Making compliments and appreciating habitual actions rapidly scales your self-confidence. Genuinely complimenting others shows that you feel good enough about yourself to tell others how good they look. Love begets love. When you compliment other people, you will start seeing and appreciating the good things in your life too. It helps you love, respect, and appreciate yourself more.

6. Focus on Your Strengths and Accept Imperfections

Don't waste your energy on weaknesses. You can't be excellent at everything. Strive to get better but focus your energy more on your strengths. It strengthens you to become more confident and hence gives you greater ability to face your fears and weaknesses. Exert more of your efforts in an area where you can make the most of your strengths, knowledge, and skill set. If possible, delegate or outsource the tasks that you are not well suited for. Accept that imperfections are part of life. Perfection is beyond the realms of humans. Nobody is perfect and nobody can be perfect. Don't kill your self-confidence with the urge for perfection.

 

7. Always Be Prepared

With adequate preparation, the hardest task may become the easiest. So, to get the confidence to face certain challenges you need to adequately get yourself prepared. Get familiar with the challenges you’re likely to face. Preparation is not only for the big day. it should be a daily activity. Always be prepared. Being prepared for each day guarantees a greater likelihood that you will have a great day and improves your personal growth and self-confidence over time.

 

8. Set Goals and Strive to Achieve Them

Setting goals gives you a sense of direction and purpose. You can then strive to constantly achieve your goals. The more you achieve, the greater boost your confidence gets. Set daily goals and the subsequent accomplishment of these goals (regardless of how big or little they are) improves your confidence and moves you closer toward bigger goals and facing those tasks that scare you.

 

9. Embrace Your Interests and Hobbies

 

To grow your self-confidence, you need to make more time for the things that you love to do. Embracing your interests fills you with happiness, positivity, and wellness. These all serve to boost your confidence and productivity. Take time to discover your interests and then dedicate more time to actually pursue those interests.

 

10. Always Do Your Best

Whatever task you engage in, always strive to give your best. It makes you feel relaxed and more comfortable about your efforts. Strive for the best in your career, love life, and general relationships. However, don't confuse this with perfection. They are two different things entirely.

We highly recommend that you reach out to a mindset coach, peak performance coach or a psychology specialist - you can find these personnel on site! These are experienced professionals who have the ability to provide superior guidance and engage with you through meaningful conversation. Consult with and expert today!