Why Is There Still A Stigma Around Coaching?
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It’s been shown that you are more likely to succeed when you have support around you. Hence, it’s easy to see why starting on a path towards any sort of goal is much more doable when those who mean the most to you are on board, such as your family, spouse, kids, those close to you and those people that you trust.
That being said, it’s surprising that there is often still a stigma associated with connecting with a mindset coach, relationship coach, health coach, or any other experienced professional for that matter.
Whilst some concerns are valid, know that these professionals have your best interest at heart.
Let’s take a deeper dive into some of the feelings and reasons as to why individuals may be hesitant to take part in a conversation, consultation or session with a coach.
I Can Do It All By Myself
Some people might feel that engaging in a meaningful conversation with a leadership coach or psychology specialist (for example) is unnecessary. There could be the belief that if you were truly ready and in the right mindset, you could just motivate yourself, snap your fingers, and conquer all of your unhealthy habits.
However, one of the things that you may struggle with most, as an individual with goals, is accountability. With no one to remind you of your intentions besides yourself, it can be way too easy to buy into your own excuses and justifications that go against fulfilling your ambitions and aspirations. Unfortunately, this is the same process that likely got you into your current situation - where you are seeking assistance or inspiration.
You need someone to snap you out of that cycle and mindset, forcing you to keep your best interest at the top of your mind, even on the days when you don’t want to.
As the industry of health, mindset, and life coaching has exploded in popularity over recent years, largely due to demand, talk on the relevant qualifications of such coaches has come into question. After all, what makes a good health or mental coach, as opposed to a nutritionist, dietician, psychologist, counsellor, or psychiatrist? They are already well-educated in these areas, so why the need for a coach?
For one, many coaches have acquired either a certification or undergone additional education to support their coaching abilities. What largely sets coaches apart from professionals is their motivating personality.
Coaches provide an enhanced level of accountability that other professionals may not be able to provide. The reasons for our mental or physical health needing attention are often complex and deserve not just attention, but constant support in order to resolve them.
Think about when you order an intricately designed item from Amazon that requires complicated assembling. You can be given the instruction manual and all of the tools, much like professionals can do for your physical or mental health, but isn’t it that much more helpful to take advantage of the additional service that actually puts the item together for you?
A nutritionist can provide you with a manual. A health coach will help you assemble yourself.
A psychiatrist can discuss your unhealthy tendencies with you. A mental health coach will help you transform them into healthy habits that you can take advantage of for the rest of your lifetime.
Often, mindset coaches and health and wellness coaches went down the coaching route professionally because they have the skills to motivate others, or they experienced a life-changing transformation of their own, or they have a combination of both.
This relatability, coupled with a “if I could do it, you can do it too” approach, offers a far greater outcome from that initial fear of being judged. Quite the opposite feelings are in play. Mindset coaches and health coaches have often been exactly where you are. Their passion counteracts your fear. Their personal transformation silences your uncertainty. They want nothing more than to help others achieve what they’ve unlocked for themselves.
Mindset coaches and health coaches can hold you accountable, motivate you, help you come up with a plan of action, support you, and help you navigate every challenge life throws your way.
One of the biggest reasons why you may be hesitant to work with a coach (for example a mental health coach, a life coach, or career coach) is fear.
You may have a fear of being judged by a coach for your previous decisions as well as those that you still may continue to make even once you begin working together.
You may lack confidence to admit that you could use some coaching assistance at all in order to become the best version of yourself.
You may be too prideful.
You may believe that others would perceive you as weak if you need help “getting it together”.
You may have a fear of uncovering deep-seeded issues that you’ve suppressed up until now.
Maybe you’re afraid that speaking to a coach, specialist, therapist or practitioner could result in you being put on medication.
You might be hesitant to open up to a stranger, or face and conquer your issues for once and for all.
Fear is one of the most natural feelings you can experience as a human, but, if it’s not labelled for exactly what it is, fear will often dictate why you won’t do most of the things that you want to do in this lifetime. If fear governs your thought process and decision-making skills, you will surely deprive yourself of the wealth of opportunities that this lifetime has to offer you.
If your son is naturally good at football, would you not sign him up for a team so that he can be coached to become the best player he could?
If your daughter wants to sing in the West End theatre, wouldn’t you want a vocal coach to help her strengthen her skills and teach her methods and techniques that she may have otherwise not considered?
We all had teachers when we were growing up, why don’t we have a coach in adulthood?
No one is saying that you don’t have the power to smash goals yourself, but it’s helpful to have that additional guidance, those words of wisdom, and those little “you remind me of myself when I was where you are” moments with a coach, specialist, therapist, practitioner or other. These actions will help keep you motivated day-in, day-out, particularly when you don’t feel like showing up for yourself.
If you were already able to consistently achieve your goals and remove the bad habits in your life, you would already be where you’re trying to go.